Though Mother’s Day is one of the most celebrated holidays in the United States, there is atruth that is rarely acknowledged: Mother’s Day isn’t joyful for everyone.
It makes sense if Mother’s Day is difficult for you if:
- You lost your mother
- You are estranged from your mother or have a strained relationship
- Your mother isn’t/wasn’t present for you
- You are struggling with fertility or loss
- You have a strained relationship with your child(ren)
Mother’s Day can be a reminder of all the things you missed out on. It often triggers unpleasant memories, symptoms of trauma, anxiety, grief, or depression.
How to cope when Mother’s Day hurts:
- Acknowledge that Mother’s Day is painful for you and allow yourself to feel that pain.
- Understand that any emotion is normal on Mother’s Day
- Plan an activity that honor’s the missing mother or child in your life
- Tune out and log off for the day
- Ask loved ones for support
- Plan a “me” day
- If you plan on seeing your family, set boundaries and expectations up front.
